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Caption: YOU'VE GOT TO
LET THE GREAT
SADNESS GO
- PART 3
A 3-Part Story
of A Most Unlikely Friendship
By Meri Aaron Walker
#iphoneography #iphoneonly #stellerstories #creative
Caption: PART THREE
THE EVERYDAY PRACTICE
OF NOT HOGGING
YOUR OWN BROKEN HEART ...turns out to be quite a bit
harder than it first sounds.
Who wants to quit hiding
their broken heart from the world?
Maybe everyone.
But who's prepared to dance
with the wide-ranging
consequences of
sharing their broken heart?
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Caption: There
is
such
utter
delight
in
being
lavished
with
others'
gifts
and
strengths.
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Caption: A Quiet Storm of Tender Force
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Caption: I Can't Tell
Where You Stop
and I Begin
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Caption: And
it's utterly
excruciating
to encounter others'
unapparent deficits ...
... and the sex- fear- power- drug- alcohol- and food-addictions they run
to avoid the
confusion and pain
their deficits
cause them
and everyone else.
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Caption: If You Insist On Knowing My Bliss
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Caption: Some Things Cannot Be Spoken
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Caption: The Slightest Hint of Ambivalence Could Topple Her Whole World Right Into the Maze
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Caption: IF YOU RECALL...
For two years,
my friend, Ben,
and I have been
using yoga and massage
to help me heal from
decades of chronic pain.
In the process, I have seen
how much energy I've used
my whole life,
clinging to disappointment
like some dirty Teddy Bear
when people I loved
didn't consider my needs.
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Caption: What Comes of Hoarding Disappointment
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Caption: I also learned
how much
energy
and time
Ben
had spent
keeping secrets
about his needs.
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Caption: I Want Into Your Temple
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Caption: It turns out
both of us
have loved many people
who were
so overwrought
by their
failed strategies
for meeting
their own needs ...
... that they rarely
noticed our needs.
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Caption: They Said She Was
Just Too Demanding
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Caption: How Could You Leave Me Standing Alone In A World That's So Cold?
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Caption: Please Don't Let Me
Be Misunderstood
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Caption: Don't Ask Me What I Think of You,
I Might Not Give the Answer
That You Want Me To
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Caption: Sharing our broken hearts,
while remaining mindful
of one another's needs,
Ben and I managed to open
a deep healing space
between us.
A place to see and be seen,
to hear and be heard,
to feel and be felt.
A place outside romance.
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Caption: This Has Never Happened Before
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Caption: Sharing intimate time
with Ben,
I have come into
a profound experience
of the Love
that gave me birth
and beats my heart.
It's not Love that
comes to me from others.
It's the Force that
quite literally breathes me.
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Caption: You Raise Me Up to More
Than I Could Be
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Caption: It's Nobody's Fault
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Caption: We Are Always Inside of Each Other
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Caption: To let the great sadness go, we must do nothing less than enter directly into the
dark, rich beauty of our
own unmet human needs...
...refusing to abandon ourselves when others
don't, won't or can't love us
in the ways we long for.
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Caption: We must
be the Love
we already are
- and lavish Love
on ourselves -
instead of taking disappointment
as our dark lover.
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Caption: In the friendship with Ben,
I've come to see the truth
of something Byron Katie says:
"There is only one mind - and it is yours - no matter how it appears."
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Caption: Forgiveness, I Saved
A Place For You
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(C) 2016, Meri Aaron Walker, iPhoneArtGirl, Talent, OR.
All rights reserved.
Excerpted from upcoming books.
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